There have been many times during the almost five years that we (I, mostly) have been writing this blog when I've wondered exactly why we were doing it.
I often read other blogs about hotwifing and related stuff, and I'm always struck by how many comments the bloggers seem to get. It's true that many of the bloggers are the hotwives themselves, and evidently most of the commenters are men... so maybe it stands to reason that they get more response and attention than a mere HW hubby!
The ego of the blogger surely demands some attention, otherwise we'd all be writing Word documents to ourselves and saving them securely on our computers. And it does feel great when people comment.
The trend on this blog is lots of comments when I post action pictures (no surprise there...!) but not many for anything else. I guess the reason I'm writing this post today is that I was very surprised that the most significant post I've ever written (my last one, on 6 Dec) got just three comments. I'm HUGELY grateful for all three of them, especially to Edith, whose comment underscored exactly what we have recently experienced.
Not sure what sort of response I'd expected, either in terms of volume or tone, but it made me wonder whether we should be avoiding the deeper stuff, the philosophical stuff, and just focusing on the porn pics...
But then I decided that I should stay on the same path, because the web is full of porn and there aren't enough sites about the psychology of this approach to love, sex and marriage.
My decision was reinforced by some recent online chats with fans of the blog who have all been inspired by what they've read here to drive forward with their own hotwifing adventures. Hearing those stories is incredibly rewarding!
Back in the real world, Anna is out tonight with James, their third meeting to date. They were meeting for a drink at his hotel, followed by... who knows what? She's been with him for an hour and twenty now, so I'd be very surprised if they aren't naked as I type this!
She also has an evening with Jerry lined up tomorrow.
It's all go for my hottie!
Ben
Ben let me be the first to boost your ego.
ReplyDeleteThanks for the blogs, keep them cumming!!
I would be happy for more of the deep and meaningful
Stuff. Yours and Anna's blog is the only one I check every day
To see what's new. Keep it up
Dave and Sue
Trust your instincts and let your ego watch by bemused as they lead the way!
ReplyDeleteYep I know what you mean about lack of comments. I've had 20 000 hits and just a few comments- that's why I post very rarely, but never apologise!
ReplyDeleteAnyway, I for one check your blog daily. Its so interesting to see what's happening in the REAL world of sexual relationships (not contrived porn)
THANKS AGAIN!
Ben your blog is one of the best Hotwifing blogs on the internet. The reason I keep coming back to read it, keep linking to your posts and keep asking my wife to read your entries is because it is not just a porn blog but about your real life feelings as a couple as you explore this non-monogomous lifestyle. I am not a prolific commenter (for various reasons) but I may have mentioned before but my favorite posts are the ones where you and your wife recount your feelings after a new experience. Please keep posting and I will keep coming back to read it, even when I don't comment. Thanks.
ReplyDeleteAs someone who is hoping to join this lifestyle with my wife one day, I've been fascinated by your blog. The passion you two have for each other is evident, and I truly appreciate the psychological thoughts that you have shared.
ReplyDeleteI've been in this lifstyle for 12 years and I come back time and time again to read your blog.In your words....
ReplyDeleteNot sure what sort of response I'd expected, either in terms of volume or tone, but it made me wonder whether we should be avoiding the deeper stuff, the philosophical stuff, and just focusing on the porn pics...
But then I decided that I should because the web is full of porn and there aren't enough sites about the psychology stay on the same path,of this approach to love, sex and marriage....
Stay on the same path keep up the good work
Ben, i agree with the other poster, this is the best blog on the internet, please don't stop! My wife has had many fuck-buddies over the years and it drives me wild! Your blog has certainly highlighted to me that i'm not a right old weirdo for enjoying the fact that my wife fuck's other men for pleasure!
ReplyDeleteI'm with everyone else keep the deeper stuff coming. Porn I can get anywhere. While I'm not interested in having my wife do this. It's fascinating to me that you can get off having her doing outside partners and you not wanting to do it yourself.
ReplyDeleteSweet Ben,
ReplyDeleteI've been a reader of your blog for three years. It encouraged me to become a Hotwife myself. A blog shouldn't be just photos and porn; you've done yours masterfully. It is so well written, so articulate; and so interesting. I very much want to know how the emotions are doing and the relationships, not just the sex. I have been concerned about Annabelle switching from being a Hotwife to poly-amorous wife (you and Jerry being her two husbands). Bringing James in is very healthy. But, don't lose sight of the fact that you and Annabelle are MARRIED (i.e. committed to each other). Don't ever let Hotwifing dominate your marriage. Rather, let it enhance it, as it has mine.
Best of wishes to you two in the "cuming" New Year.
Monet
Fascinating, articulate, erotic, insightful. Whilst my wife and I will never practise your lifestyle each of these four adjectives apply to your blog. Please keep up the good work.
ReplyDeleteI am a very recent follower of your blog and I would like to sincerely thank you for it. It has inspired me and helped me get through the difficult times since we started our hotwife journey just a short two months ago.
ReplyDeleteI would like to share my story with you: We are a couple in our late-20's in the US. I hesitantly brought up the idea of hotwifing to my (very conservative) wife of seven years and she absolutely ran with it. I told her it was my fantasy, and it is, but deep down I really hoped it would help give her back the self-confidence and sexuality that had been missing since she had our child three years ago. Within two weeks of putting a profile on AM, she was already going on a solo date (so fast! - I wasn't ready!). I was so very excited yet was an absolute wreck inside. They went to a hotel and had sex the very first night they met...on top of that they had a very strong connection on many levels - something that really caught my wife off guard - afterwards they talked daily, etc. I was unsure if I wanted it to continue. I was expecting just a one-night stand. I didn't know how to rationalize her new relationship in my mind. I turned to the internet to look for ways to deal with the angst and my confused emotions. Will all of the cuckold stuff out there (admittedly my fantasies had previously been rooted there), I didn't find much healthy consolation. I told her I was struggling and really thought about calling it all off. She tried to console me to little avail. Then I found your blog (and a few others also celebrating the mutual benefits of such an arrangement - the positive side of things) and began to see how this would, and had already, strengthened our relationship immensely. I let her continue on. She is currently on her fifth night out with her boyfriend and neither of us have ever been happier. She feels strong, sexual, independent, and beautiful again and she loves me more than ever for this gift I have given her. We are both reaping the rewards with every day that passes. 'Happy wife, happy life!'
Let me thank you again for your blog!! Until I read this post I hadn't even thought about commenting. So, don't worry, there are plenty of us out here that have been positively affected by your writings, even if we stay quiet (which I realize I have not at all - with the length of this comment!). I look forward to reading more about your journey as ours continues to develop. Cheers!
Hi, Joey i have same opinion like you and same inside struggling about my wife. I still collecting courage to let her do first moves. Can you suggest me any more blogs like this one ? I doubt that can be better than this one but who knows ...
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